Pregnant Women and Newborn Babies

How do you cope when you see pregnant women or newborn babies? This is such a hard one for many of us who have lost a child, it’s something that comes up a lot on Sophie’s Angels and other loss groups that I am a member of.

Your Feelings

I would like to start by saying that your feelings are completely warranted. There is no ‘right or wrong’ way to feel in this situation and your feelings will probably vary depending on the time since your angel grew his or her wings, how close you are to the pregnant woman, as well as other factors like how the other children are treated, how long they have been trying for a baby, and their personal situation… I know that this is absolutely none of my business but when you have lost a child your perspective changes, and even though I may not say anything except ‘congratulations’, my feelings are warranted and important… and so are yours. I still find that I get envious of people who seem to fall pregnant very quickly and have an easy pregnancy… It doesn’t mean that I’m not happy for them… because I am! But I am still envious… and that’s ok!

How to cope with your emotions

This is different for everyone, and you need to do what is right for you. It can help to talk about this on groups like Sophie’s Angels as you can talk to people who understand the mix of emotions that you are feeling… without being judged. Some people (and I have done this on occasion) go into self-protection mode and try to ignore their own feelings and emotions; however, by doing so you can end up feeling ‘numb’; this can help in the short term, but when those emotions return (and they will) it is so much harder to deal with it. However you deal with your feelings around pregnant women and newborn babies is right for you, and as soon as you realise, and truly believe that the feelings are completely normal then it will become easier to cope with. It is ok to not be ok.

What can you do to help with these emotions

The first thing, and I can not stress this enough, is to realise that your emotions and feelings are completely valid and totally normal; you are only human and therefore can easily be triggered by something which hurts your feelings. These are some ideas which could help you to cope with seeing pregnant women and newborn babies:

  • Join a few support groups like Sophie’s Angels or SANDS. On these group you will find other grieving parent, grandparents etc, and talking about your feelings with people who understand can be really helpful
  • Cry, scream, shout and vent as much as you need to, because none of this is right or fair
  • Avoid (at least to begin with) triggering situations… I’m sure friends will understand if you can’t attend their baby shower etc
  • Talk to you doctor if you feel that you would benefit from bereavement counselling
  • Talk about your angel as much as you want

What other things have helped you to cope with this? Please feel free to leave a comment.

Butterfly Awards

Don’t forget to cast your votes!! If you’d like to vote for Sophie’s Angels (but there is no pressure!) then please feel free to use my email address maria.kirk@hotmail.co.uk

If you would like to nominate Sophie’s Angels for the support organisation or for the blogger award then please do. Also you can nominate me, any of the admin, or any other members in the group for any of the awards. It will ask for an email address, so please ask your nominee for their email address (or if you want to do it secretly then message me and I can get the email address for you!!!)

Thank you. and happy voting!!!

https://babylossstar.co.uk/2017-nominations/

Categories:

1.) Bereavement Worker
The Bereavement Worker award celebrates the work of people who provide some form of bereavement care outside of maternity services. This can include funeral directors, non-clinical hospital staff, chaplain and religious ministers, mortuary workers and bereavement counsellors.

2.) The Thank You Award
Anyone who has made an impact on a single person, a group of people, or the baby loss community in general.

3.) Most Valuable Contribution
People who has made a valuable contribution within the baby loss community to a cause. This can include any person or collective who has made a valuable contribution to the baby loss community. Individuals from support organisations can be nominated.

4.) Midwife of the Year
A midwife who has had an impact on parents at the time of loss or during subsequent pregnancies. They don’t necessarily have to have delivered their baby or held their hand throughout labour; it can also be (but is not limited to) a midwife who sat with them when they received bad news, one who visited at their home, bereavement midwives, one who looked after them in the hospital after birth, a midwife who cared for someone during a subsequent pregnancy, and so on.

5.) Author/Blogger International
Writers who have either experienced the death of their own baby, or those who write about the topic. They may have created one book or blog post which made a big impact on the reader or may be a prolific writer who has affected change within this community. Open to both Authors and Bloggers.

6.) Inspirational Mother
A mother who has lost a baby during pregnancy (at any gestation) or after birth before the age of 18 months. A mother who has inspired others. A mother who has had to deal with the loss of more than one baby, being ‘hit’ with the devastation multiple times and still stands. Survivors. A mother who has been through devastating periods during their life as well as losing their baby who shows courage, strength and determination to make it through the next day. A mother who has made a change or a difference in the baby loss community. A mother who has had an impact on the baby loss community, whether it be one person or one thousand people. Someone who has, despite her own grief, helped other people through their grief through the means of providing online support, personal support, friendship, guidance etc. A mother who, whilst grieving for their own baby, has gone on to create a safe haven for parents to turn, established an organisation or charity to offer support/keepsakes/books etc to other grieving families.

7.) Inspirational Father
A father who has lost a baby during pregnancy (at any gestation) or after birth before the age of 18 months. A father who has inspired others. A father who has had to deal with the loss of more than one baby, being ‘hit’ with the devastation multiple times and still stands. Survivors. A father who has been through devastating periods during their life as well as losing their baby who shows courage, strength and determination to make it through the next day. A father who has made a change or a difference in the baby loss community. A father who has inspired others. A father who has had an impact on the baby loss community, whether it be one person or one thousand people. Someone who has, despite his own grief, helped other people through their grief through the means of providing online support, personal support, friendship, guidance etc. A father who, whilst grieving for their own baby, has gone on to create a safe haven for parents to turn, established an organisation or charity to offer support/keepsakes/books etc to other grieving families.

8.) Awareness Advocate
An individual who has made an impact with their own story, a campaign or raised awareness about a particular issue. Someone who has developed a new product or policy that has had a positive, sizeable, impact. Someone who has successfully changed policy or procedure. Someone who has had their story or work produced in a way which has attracted large amounts of media attention.

9.) Best Hospital Bereavement Care
A team who provides support to parents and families after the loss of a baby/infant.

10.) Cherished Keepsake
An item or creator of an item that enables parents to honour their baby, remember their baby or create a special place for their baby. A service provided to enable a family/parents to create memories with their baby (e.g. remembrance photographers, remembrance castings, jewelry etc).

11.) Health Professional
Someone who works within a health setting who has had profound impact through helping a family through their loss. An individual (not a group of people) who has gone above and beyond in their work to support grieving families in their care. A health professional who has made a difference or made a change in the ‘baby loss community’. This may be a nurse who has guided a family when turning off their baby’s life support, a consultant who has guided parents through a bleak diagnosis, a sonographer who showed outstanding compassion, a student midwife who has had an impact on the baby loss community and/or puts time and effort in to making a change etc.

12.) UK Support Organisation
A U.K. based organisation set up to help parents and families who suffer the loss of a baby. Founder does not have to have experiences baby loss first-hand but needs to support those that have. Does not have to be an organisation that offers a material service: can include online support groups and forums. Their main ‘aim’ does not have to be to support people who lose a baby, but it does have to be a fundamental role within their work.

How Did You Know That Something Was Wrong?

This is a question that came up in my radio interview yesterday, and it really got me thinking! How did I know that Sophie has passed away… because I knew before I got to the hospital; I was convinced that, although I had been there 3 times during that week for the same thing, I knew that on this occasion they wouldn’t find a heartbeat, I just knew that she had died.

I do strongly believe that I had a ‘gut’ feeling on the lead up to her death, and I also feel that women should be listened to much more if they feel there is a problem… it’s just an inbuilt feeling which is hard to explain; women are very in tune with their bodies and very often they just ‘know’.

On that particular morning, when the movements had stopped and I had a ‘heavy’ sensation in my belly, I ‘knew’, and I didn’t rush to the hospital as I couldn’t bare to have it confirmed. I tried my home doppler and all I heard was an empty silence, no blood rushing through the placenta, no heartbeat… nothing… just silence. And I just ‘knew’.

Paul was trying to remain positive and it just broke my heart, because I knew that in a few hours his world would come crashing down; the children had no idea that there was a problem and that shattered my heart as I knew that I would have to tell them that their much longed for sister had passed away. My parents and Paul’s parents were so looking forward to Sophie’s birth… and I knew how devastated they would be when we told them.

So, in answer to this question, I just ‘knew’, I didn’t want to be right but I knew I was. How did you know that something was wrong? Were there any signs or symptoms? Or was it just a ‘gut feeling’?

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Sophie’s Angels and the Future

I am constantly trying to think of ways to support more people who are going through the loss of their child and raise awareness about miscarriage, stillbirth and infant death. The Sophie’s Angels support group has become very successful, with many people making new friends and finding that connecting with other mums, dads, grandparents etc has helped them with their own grief. The Sophie’s Angels – Raising Awareness page has been amazing for raising awareness and breaking the taboo, and this blog is now being viewed all over the world which is just incredible.

The petition is going well… but it’s still very early days! However, the awareness it has raised concerning preventable stillbirths has been amazing! Sophie’s story and the petition have been on the Mirror Online twice, The Kent Messenger Newspaper, and tomorrow morning I have an interview with BBC Radio Kent. I have had a letter from the House of Commons in support of these changes. This wouldn’t be possible without so much support from friends, family, followers and other grieving families… so Thank you!

In the future I would really like to see Sophie’s Angels become a charity, and I am currently looking at ways to make that happen! I would ideally like the charity to concentrate on raising money for bereavement suites, cuddle cots, and memory boxes… not just for parents, but for siblings and grandparents too. I don’t feel that there’s enough support out there for siblings or grandparents.

So, exciting plans for the future! If you would like to sign and share the petition it would mean so much to many grieving families; and please feel free to join Sophie’s Angels if you have suffered a loss… it doesn’t matter how long ago that loss was.

Promises are Never Broken

I try very hard to always keep my promises, it’s not always easy but if I make a promise to one of my children then I will move mountains to make sure that I keep it! Promises are built on trust, and my children trust and depend on me, and I sure as hell won’t break a promise and disappoint my children!

When Sophie was born I made 3 promises. The first was that I would always love and remember her… that one is easy to keep because she will always be my daughter and I will always love her; the second promise was that we would find out why she died; this one was slightly harder because the post mortem can back largely inconclusive… she was perfectly healthy which made things harder; however, they were pretty certain that she died from placental insufficiency caused by a blood clot which restricted her oxygen; the third promise was that I would make sure that other people know about her, help to support other mums who’s babies have died and campaign for safer pregnancies and births to try to stop other people going through this… Well… my darling beautiful daughter, your legacy is living on! Your mummy will never break that promise and through the Facebook page, the support group, Twitter, the petition and this blog many, many people now know about you, they know your story and they have also felt supported in their own grief.

I am shocked and humbled by how many people have visited this blog and amazed by how many different countries your story has reached. People from all over the world know who you are and I am very proud to be your mummy. I will never give up and I will never stop fighting to reduce the rates of stillbirth, and I will always help and support the mummies of your angel friends.

Love always xxx

How I feel – 22 Months On

How has it been 22 months since you left us? On one hand time seems to have flown by and on the other it has gone in slow motion. It’s a very bizarre thing! I am trying to find the words to say how I feel; I have written and rewritten this so many times, and the truth is… I just don’t know!! I still have so many emotions, and so many triggers. People don’t tend to see the real me! They see the happy, strong, organised me; but they don’t see the ‘me’ behind closed doors! They don’t see the ‘me’ who is jealous of every single pregnancy announcement, and the don’t see the ‘me’ who suffers with anxiety, who is so protective of my other children, and paranoid about something happening to them that I had a panic attack when there was an incident at my son’s school… my son wasn’t even involved but it still caused a major panic attack. These are the things that I keep to myself, these are the feelings that people don’t realise affect me, this is the ‘me’ that I tend to hide.

Because I’m still not sure exactly how I feel, I will start by talking about the feelings and emotions that haunt me, before talking about the positive way I feel… as I’m sure that the good outweighs the bad!

After so many losses, I am still triggered by pregnancy announcements and birth announcements, I still struggle to see new born babies, and although I recently held my friends baby (who I adore) it is hard. I am sorry if this comes across badly; I am truly very happy when someone is expecting, and when their baby is born; but I still feel that pang of jealousy… I don’t show it, but it’s there! My anxiety became quite bad recently, and I finally (after months of my husband pleading) saw the doctor, I am now on anxiety meds and waiting for an appointment for therapy to help with my panic attacks… This was an important but difficult step for me to take, as I like everyone to think that I’m in control and everything is ok!

Now we move to my other children. As you know, I have 3 boys Brett (18), Brendon (12) and Aiden (4); all very different characters but all lovely in their own way. Brett is going through a hard time at the moment, we are trying to get an ‘all over’ assessment by the doctor (we have an appointment tomorrow), because since Christmas he has been really unwell. We’ve been to the doctors 3 times so far, but I’m hoping that by seeing a different doctor tomorrow we may get better results! He needs referrals to lots of different departments to find out why he’s so unwell; and hopefully get him back to college. I worry about him so much because he IS very unwell, and we don’t seem to be getting answers! My middle son Brendon is very outgoing, he enjoys sports and loves to take a football to the park with his friends. This causes me so much anxiety, I ‘have’ to take a step back and let him have fun… but it’s so hard! I like him where I can see him, and I can’t see him if he’s out playing! I try not to make it obvious; going out with your friends is a good thing… but to the ‘me’ that I hide, it is scary! Now we move on to Aiden; he is a ‘character’… that’s they only way to describe him!!! But, my goodness he seems to find danger at every turn! He is always hurting himself, knocking things over, bumping into things… these are normal things for a 4 year old, I know that, but I still can’t help feeling worried! He is probably my biggest worry at the moment, as he doesn’t seem to recognise danger, and he is always putting himself in dangerous situations (Opening the oven door, running in the road, putting his fingers in the hinges of the door etc).

Losing a child changes you, there is no doubt about that… but one of the biggest changes at the moment is the paranoia that something might happen to one of my other children… and this I find hard to shake.

Now I’m going to move on to the things I am grateful for. I am very thankful that I have such an amazing, loving family. Paul and I have become closer throughout the losses, and as I know this can tear relationships apart, I am really pleased that this hasn’t happened with us! My children are happy and healthy (apart from the health concerns with Brett, but we will sort that one out!!), and we are very close as a family; we always keep the lines of communication open so that helps a lot! I am also grateful that I can speak to my mum and step-dad, my dad and step-mum and paul’s mum and dad about anything and everything! We really do have a fantastic family and I owe a lot of my strength and courage to them! They have supported me with anything that I wanted to do, and been there to wipe the tears!

My friends are amazing! I have both friends that I see, and online friends in the loss community… after losing Sophie I ‘lost’ quite a few friends and was upset for a long time; however, the friends that I have now are the most amazing people! It is true that you find out who your friends are when something tragic happens!

I am really happy that I have been offered an unconditional place to study Midwifery at Canterbury Christchurch University in September. Not many people would be happy to receive an ‘Anatomy and Physiology’ book, or a blood pressure monitor for Christmas… but for me… I was over the moon!! I’m excited and nervous!

Sophie has also given me the opportunity to help other people, which although it hurts like hell sometimes, I feel very privileged to be able to do it! Sophie’s Angels has grown so much recently, and although biased, I feel I have the most amazing admin team! They are always there for people, and we all truly care about the members of our group; some of which have become good friends, or formed friendships on the group. It has been great to see the group change and develop! Our Angel Sophie has also grown which is fantastic! More people are hearing Sophie’s story and more people are interacting with the page. Our Twitter Page is slowly growing and I’m finding this to be good way to communicate with a range of organisations and people. I am thankful that we have had media exposure, and were in the Mirror Online twice last week! This article focuses on Sophie’s Story, and this one focuses on the things not to say to grieving parents.

I am extremely grateful with the support that has been shown for the Petition, there are far too many preventable stillbirths and this need to change. At the time of writing this we have 3,069 signatures… still a long way to go, but it is rising and it is gaining awareness! If you could sign and share it then it would be really appreciated.

So, yes, there are now many things that I am grateful for! And although I still get ‘triggered’ and find some things really tough, I can see that we have a happy and positive future ahead!

Forever loved and forever missed my gorgeous girl, but you are making a difference and you legacy will live on xxx

The Butterfly Awards

The Butterfly Awards are opening their nominations soon, and I have been asked a few times since yesterday about this event! So I will try to explain! The Butterfly Awards is a ceremony which brings awareness and helps to break the taboo surrounding loss. The award ceremony is a black tie/cocktail dress event which aims to celebrate the achievements of people, volunteers, groups or professionals, who support or raise awareness about this. The awards will be held on 27th October 2018 at Chesford Grange Hotel, Warwick.

The Butterfly Awards 2018 Award Categories 🦋

  • Inspirational Father
  • Inspirational Mother
  • Bereavement Worker
  • Author / Blogger
  • Awareness Advocate
  • Healthcare Professional
  • UK Support Organisation
  • Cherished Keepsake
  • Best Hospital Bereavement Care
  • Midwife of the Year
  • Most Valuable Contribution
  • The Thank You Award

People, organisations and groups can be nominated for more than one category, so get your thinking caps on and work out who you plan to nominate in advance!! Voting will open soon, but the date hasn’t been confirmed yet! I will let you know when voting is open, and you can vote for anyone who you feel has helped you, raised awareness etc.

If you want to follow The Butterfly Awards for up to date information, please visit: https://www.facebook.com/TheButterflyAwards/

And to view the website, which should be updated soon, please visit: https://babylossstar.co.uk/2016/07/29/babyloss-star-awards/

 

An Open Letter to a Grieving Dad

I am so sorry that you are in this devastating situation, I am so sorry that you have lost your precious baby and I wish I could take your pain away and make everything ok again. It is hard being a dad walking this path, everyone is asking how your partner is coping, how are your other children coping, if there’s anything they can do to help your partner and do you think she would benefit from extra support like bereavement counselling. You answer this questions, you field the phone calls, you try to protect her and comfort her; while all the time inside you are screaming ‘what about me!? I’ve lost a baby too!’.

As a man you feel you need to be strong, you feel protective towards your partner, and you feel that you need to give her a shoulder to cry on; well, I need you to know that in this situation you don’t need to be strong, you can be protective whilst also grieving your loss too, and you also need to have a shoulder to cry on, to vent at, to shout and scream about how unfair this is… because it IS unfair and it IS ok to express that, to let it out, and to hate the world.

Right now, you might have more questions than answers; you may not have received the test results yet or they might not give a definite reason for your baby passing. This limbo is horrible, it really is, and it is my hope that that one day you will find the answers that you seek. I know that you probably feel numb, angry and upset, and I also know that you feel you will never be able to accept what has happened… how could you? How could you possibly accept that your baby will not be coming home? How could you ever accept that you had to leave your baby with strangers, cold and alone, while you returned home to an empty house, and a nursery full of things that your baby should be using? I also know that as time goes on, more people will almost expect you to carry on (much sooner that your partner), they will expect you to return to work (maybe before you are ready), they will expect you to be the strong one… I want you (even though it’s hard) to block these people out, there is no time limit on grief, it ebbs and flows; these are people that fortunately don’t know how it feels to lose a child; they are the lucky ones.

I want you to know, even though you feel like it, you are not alone. I want you to know that you and your baby matter, and I need you to know that there are people who you can talk to, other dads who have been through the same, devastating and life changing thing… because losing a child is life changing, and no matter what others might say, things will never be ‘normal’ again… but you will, in time, find a ‘new normal’. One where you find ways to honour your baby, whilst also looking towards the future.

I know (from my husband) that as a loss dad it can be very hard, people need to realise that you lost a child too, and you are hurting. Please share your baby and your experience as much as you want; your baby is not just a statistic… he or she is a baby with a family who love and miss him/her, and therefore he/she deserves to be recognised and remembered. I know that, occasionally, as a loss dad, you may receive negative comments when you talk about your baby, or share their photos. These comments may put you off sharing, you may feel like you ‘have to move on’ and not share any more, you may then feel more isolated, upset and alone.

When I first started to share Sophie I received comments like this, mostly from people who care a great deal and thought that I was torturing myself. At first, it really upset me, and I stopped sharing Sophie’s story and her photos; but after a short while I realised that sharing her, as much as I share my other children, was helping me and not hindering me! If people don’t want to look then they are welcome to scroll past, and the positive comments certainly outweighed the negative, which made me happy! For the people who do post the odd unhelpful comment, I no longer feel upset or angry; instead, I feel grateful, grateful that they don’t know, and don’t understand, what it’s like to lose a child; because I would never wish this on any one.

I want to let you know that it’s ok to not be ok, I say this to people on Sophie’s Angels because it’s true… sometimes breathing IS enough! Sometimes you may not feel like doing anything, or you may want to do things to keep busy… both of these are perfectly ok. Taking things one step at a time, taking each minute as it comes… all these things will help you to get through today; and that’s ALL you need to do.

Lastly, I want to let you know that it is ok to not be ‘strong’; it is ok to shout, scream, cry; it is ok to shut yourself away and it is ok to not want to talk about your baby if that helps. However YOU need to grieve is ok, everyone grieves differently; and sometimes we can be triggered by things long after we ‘think’ we’ve finished grieving… because grieving a child never really ends, it ebbs and flows like the waves. However, there will come a time, when you find yourself smiling again, you find yourself wanting to look to the future, and you find yourself enjoying life once more; you may not see it now, but it will happen.

Lots of love and hugs to you, your family, and your precious angel

Maria

xxx

If you feel that you would like to join Sophie’s Angels, then please click here.

How to Know When It’s Time to Try Again

This is something that I have been asked a few times recently. ‘How do I know when the time is right to try again?’ This is a very personal question, and the answer is going to be different for everyone. So, with this post I am going to give a very general answer based on conversations that I’ve had with various bereaved parents.

You are the only person who knows how you feel about trying again, and therefore you are the only one who knows when the time is right. However, there are some things to take into consideration.

• How does your partner feel?
• Have you had all the tests available so that you know any risks in future pregnancies?
• Are you happy with your care team?
• Are you confident that you will be well looked after?
• Do you feel ready, emotionally, for another pregnancy?
• Are you physically healed from your last pregnancy?
• Are you taking any suggested medication?

The main thing is that you, and your partner, feel ready. Rainbow pregnancies are not easy; you are no longer naïve about things that can happen, and this can be very stressful. I would urge you to work with your doctor to make sure that you are fit and healthy, and that any concerns are taken seriously; as this will help to ease your mind.

Some people feel ready immediately, others want to wait a while. What I will say (and I’m being a complete hypocrite here as I wanted to try straight away after Sophie!), is that it is best to wait for tests, especially genetic tests, to come back first; this way you can be sure that the care plan your doctor puts in place for you, is tailored to your individual needs.

I wish you the best of luck when you do decide to try again, and I’m keeping everything crossed for you!

Research into Loss

Tommy’s conduct research into miscarriage, stillbirth and premature birth; they have four research centres (London, Manchester, Edinburgh, and the National Research Centre which is the largest in Europe). Hundreds of doctors and midwives work together across the Tommy’s research centre network to improve pregnancy outcomes for both mother and baby.

There are specialist clinics within the centres for women at risk of pregnancy complications, they also have the opportunity for people to join in research trials.

London

The Tommy’s Preterm Surveillance Clinic – This is held at Guy’s and St. Thomas’ hospital, and they have been providing care for over 10 years. Tommy’s states that ‘In 2017, the total number of referrals from women at high risk of giving birth too early doubled compared to 2016. We are now seeing an average of 200 referrals each month’.

The hypertension in pregnancy clinic – This is based in St. Thomas’ Hospital and helps women with high blood pressure. They have helped 150 women since 2015.

The diabetes clinic – This is based at Guy’s and St. Thomas’ Foundation Trust, the clinic helps women with diabetes, women suffering from endocrine disease and other disorders like cholestasis. ‘The research carried out in the clinic has been a driving force for the adoption of universal screening for gestational diabetes’ Tommy’s

Manchester

The Placenta Clinic – This is the UK’s first placenta clinic and was opened in 2009; they work with women whose babies have growth restriction, and study the placenta carefully to reduce the risk of stillbirth.

The Rainbow Clinic – This is based at St. Mary’s and they provide care to women who have suffered a previous stillbirth or neonatal death.

The Lupus in Pregnancy Clinic –Tommy’s is supporting this clinic which helps women with the autoimmune disorder Systemic Lupus Erythematous and related diseases. Tommy’s supports the clinic through access to our research midwives.

The Manchester Antenatal Vascular Service – This is based at St. Mary’s hospital in Manchester, and offers extra monitoring and pregnancy care to women with a history of high blood pressure, and those at risk of related complications. Tommy’s states that ‘MAViS is currently home to exciting research funded by the National Institute for Health Research’. Tommy’s supports the clinic through access to our research midwives.

Edinburgh

Tommy’s Metabolic Antenatal Clinic – This clinic helps women with severe obesity, they have specialists in pregnancy care and diabetes, as well as midwives and a specialist dietician. 25-30 women each week are seen in this clinic. Last year women attending this clinic were 8 times less likely to have a stillbirth than women attending clinics not specialised in helping obese women.

Tommy’s Lothian Preterm Birth Clinic – This clinic aims to continue reducing preterm birth and late miscarriage rates, to improve the quality of care for women and to develop expertise in managing complex cases.

Miscarriage centre clinics

Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research has recurrent miscarriage clinics in three different sites in the UK. All of these offer close monitoring and care during the early stages of pregnancy to women who have previously suffered miscarriages. They are also able to take part in Tommy’s clinical trials, which hope to provide women with reasons for their loss. The clinics are based in:
• Birmingham Women’s Hospital
• University Hospital Coventry
• St. Mary’s Hospital London

If you would like to be referred for one of these clinics, then please visit: https://www.tommys.org/our-organisation/help-and-support/clinical-trials

If you would like to take part in one of the trials, then please visit: https://www.tommys.org/our-organisation/help-and-support/i-would-take-part-tommys-trial

To sign a petition I made to cut the stillbirth rate in the UK, please visit: https://you.38degrees.org.uk/petitions/cut-stillbirth-rates-by-half