I have been asked several times over the course of the last year if I feel I need help because I still talk about Sophie and share her pictures; I know these people mean well, but I feel that I’ve got all the help that I need at this moment in time. However, if I feel that I need more help and support in the future, I will definitely ask for it!
So, when should you stop talking about your child? The answer for me is that I’ll stop talking about Sophie when I stop talking about my living children! I don’t think that anyone has the right to put a time limit on the ‘acceptable’ amount of time to talk about your baby, whether that loss is from miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss; would you tell a widow that they shouldn’t still be talking about their husband? Absolutely not! Therefore, it is completely unfair and unacceptable, in my opinion, to tell someone that they shouldn’t discuss their baby as they need to move on… you never ‘move on’ from losing a child; you find a way to ‘move forward’, but that doesn’t mean that you can no longer talk about your angel.
If you feel like you would benefit from extra support, then please click here where I have written about bereavement help and support services which are available in the UK; if you would like me to research services outside the UK then please send me an email and I’ll do my best to help.