I have been asked this twice recently by family members who were concerned; I know they mean well and are looking out for my emotional state, and it is a very fair question! However, I thought I would write this post as it’s the best way to get the message across to either other well-wishers, or to people who are possibly being asked the same questions!
The simple answer to this is no; no being around loss and supporting people with their loss does not stop me from healing or make me more upset. When you are a loss parent/grandparent/sibling you can often feel very lonely and isolated; you may feel like there is a short period of time when it is ‘acceptable’ to talk about your angel, to share photos and to discuss your memories and grief. Anyone who knows me, knows that I talk about Sophie as much as I talk about my living children; the reason for this isn’t to look for sympathy, but rather because she is my daughter and she deserves to be mentioned, loved and remembered.
Support groups are fantastic as you can connect with other angel parents at different stages of grief, you can share your baby as much as you want, and it can really help you to stop feeling so alone. Please feel free to join the Sophie’s Angels support group on Facebook if you’ve experienced a miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death… no matter how long ago, we are here to support you in your grief.