Nothing Prepares you
There is nothing that prepares you for a silent birth and there is nothing that prepares you for going home without your baby. I often refer to the moment that Sophie was born as a deafening silence, and I know that this is a contradiction in terms. So I thought I would write a series of blog posts, not to upset people, but to explain what happens during a silent birth, why the silence is deafening, and what happens after the birth. This is just my experience, and other people’s experience may be different… I would like to hear other experiences so please write a comment or send me an email if you wish.
In the series are:
- The Induction, labour and birth
- Your sleeping baby and the first 24 hours
- Going home without your baby
- Supporting your children
- The post-mortem
- Planning you baby’s farewell
- Life after the funeral
- Help that is available
Help That Is Available
SANDS (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Charity)
Sands supports anyone who has been affected by the death of a baby before, during or shortly after birth. We offer emotional support and information for parents, grandparents, siblings, children, families and friends, health professionals and others.
Child Bereavement UK
Support and Information line: 9am-5pm Monday-Friday. Tel: 0800 02 888 40
Email Support and Information: firstname.lastname@example.org
Our Angel Sophie
Support offered to families experiencing stillbirth and infant loss
E.L.P.O Angel and Rainbow Support Group
Support for mums and dads who have lost a baby and also people expecting a baby after a loss
Daddys With Angels
Support affter the loss of a child no matter what age or gestation.
Daddys With Angels (Families with Angels)
A group for all family members affected by the loss of a child no matter the age or gestation.
Daddys With Angels (Male family members)
Very often men are forgotten when it comes to loss. Men don’t show grief in the same way that women do… but they lost a baby too, and they are still grieving. This group offers support for the men who have lost a child no matter the age or gestation.
Daddys With Angels Community Page
A place where graphics and videos are shared and requests for custom graphics can be asked for.
After Otis – Childless Support
Support to help Children come to terms with the death of their brother or sister.
Provides support, advice and information on infant loss. Tommy’s is the leading charity on research in to pregnancy problems and loss.
Phone: 0207 398 3400
The Jessica Sherman Foundation
Comfort and support anyone affected by stillbirth or neonatal death with monthly support gatherings.
TAMBA Bereavement Group
Support for families who have lost one or more children from a multiple birth.
Phone: 0800 138 0509
Other good sources of support are:
- Your bereavement midwife
- The hospital chaplain or church minister
- Your family doctor